Rashi teaches us that the brocha of peace is as valuable as all the other material blessings combined. We see that Parshas B’chukosai outlines the ברכות that result from our following רצון ה‘ and the brochos conclude with the promise of, “And I will give you peace in the land.”
"Be of the students of Aharon, love peace and pursue peace, love people and bring them close to Torah אבות, פרק א)’). The Gemora tells us that Aharon had an effective way of making peace between feuding friends. He would tell both parties that the other side was interested in making peace, although in actuality, neither one had expressed a desire to reconcile. When the two would meet, the barriers of שנאה would be removed, and the old sparks of friendship would easily and immediately be rekindled.
Aharon’s methodology seems to be based upon שקר. Although שקר may be used to promote שלום, how can this peace be long-lasting if it isn't based in truth? The explanation is given that when Aharon approached each of the parties with the news that the other desired to mend the relationship, he was not actually “bending the truth.” Aharon, who truly loved and understood the importance of peace, understood that, deep down, within each Jew and beneath the ego, there's a loving friendly neshama that truly wants harmony and to bond with his fellow. Although it's not always apparent, and sometimes the opposite seems the be the case, Aharon knew what was best for each person and what his neshama truly wanted.
This concept of friendship and seeking peace is so important to share with your children. The children are able to understand that, deep down, they never want to fight and be upset with their classmates, but would rather be friends. This lofty concept needs constant chazara and reinforcement (and role modeling) from parents and all the adults in their life. It is an apropos lesson for y’mei sefira.
Rabbi Gidon Goldberg
Head of School