Parshas Vayeishev

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Dear Parents,

This week’s parsha deals with dreams. Educational institutions—we included—are constantly forced to be dreamers and to look for initiatives to implement into our programs. Many of these initiatives get approved and funded, but some unfortunately end up being filed away “for the future.” Still, despite that not all dreams are brought to fruition as quick as we would like them to be, without dreams, we’d become complacent in our methods and stagnate.

In an essay that discusses this dilemma of dreams vs. reality, Rabbi Berel Wein describes the basis of the argument between Yosef and his brothers. There is a difference (to put it mildly) that is outlined clearly between Yosef and his brothers in this week's parsha.

Yosef is the quintessential dreamer, his head in the stars and his youthful exuberance and certainty in the truthful outcome of his dreams becomes very irritating to his brothers. Since he lived a world of Eisav and Shechem, the brothers felt that this dreaming was the height of impracticality, if not even irresponsibility. The brothers have their feet firmly planted on the ground, in the reality of the world in which they exist, with clear recognition of its inherent dangers and threats. While Yosef feels the brothers have been unjust for rejecting his dreams outright, they in turn are convinced that he and his dreaming constitute a veritable danger to the unity and survival of Yaakov's family.

It is not only the contents of Yosef's dreams—the ideas that he will dominate the family—that disturb the brothers, but the very fact that he is dreaming raises their suspicions and fuels their enmity towards him. In the struggle between Yosef and the brothers, the conflict is between the lofty and inspirational theory of Judaism and its sometimes-mundane practice, the reality of what can be achieved even though it may not be exactly what one dreamt of achieving.

The conflict between Yosef and his brothers is never really ended. It is compromised by both sides recognizing the validity of the position of the other and living with that reality. The Jewish people in its long and difficult history have somehow been able to combine the spirit and dream of Yosef with the hardheaded realism of his brothers. Both traits are necessary for our survival and accomplishments, both as individuals and as a nation. Someone without dreams and ambitions to reach heavenward and conquer the stars will never be a truly creative or original person. But if this drive is not tempered by a realistic sense of the situation and the society that surrounds us, then all dreams are doomed to eventually disappoint.
Yosef's dreams are realized only after he has been severely chastened by his brothers' enmity, slavery, and imprisonment in Egypt. Even after he seemingly has them in his grasp, it is still a contest of wills. Again, Yosef's dreams are finally realized but only after he has been subjected to many hard years of unpleasant reality. The brothers, realists to the end, are shocked to see that the dreamer has emerged triumphant. The dreamer saves the world from famine while the realists end up being its customers.

Through this, the Torah teaches us that we need both dreamers and realists within our ranks. A nation built exclusively on dreams, without practical reality intruding, will find reality rising to foil the realization of the dream. But a nation that ceases to dream of reaching greater heights will stagnate and not survive.

Both the brothers and Yosef are "right" in their pursuit of building a nation and of spiritual growth. We need a healthy dose of both values and views in our Jewish world today as well.

I thank the administration and staff for being dreaming the dreams that allow us to strive for continued growth.
Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Peretz Scheinerman